We love the support that has poured out of our local Colorado Vendors!
Colorado Wedding Planner Lilli Black with Sweetly Paired (and our CEO here at CGW) has shared this story with Colorado Gay Weddings - and though we're sad it happened we LOVE the outpouring of support from the Colorado Wedding Community.
Tuesday Feb 27th 1952 (JUST KIDDING! It was 2018!):
I was sitting in Starbucks - The awesome one down by Park Meadows with the bench seating, plugs everywhere, and good WIFI by the Google. It was late for some folks to be working, but I'm a night person, so I was in my prime. I had just finished a call with one of our clients for this year in Beaver Creek - at the GORG Allie's Cabin. I started to do some follow up emails and my phone rang again with a TX area code. I pretty much always answer as SO many of my clients are from out of state.
"This is Lilli with Sweetly Paired, how can I help?"
"Hi, um are you a wedding planner?"
"Yes ma'am I am! Are you getting married?"
"Well, we want to. We're not sure what to do, though"
"Welp, helping you through that is what we do! Tell me about you guys! When are you looking to get married? Are you looking at Colorado? Do you have a date? (I'm sure I sound like a kid in a candy store - I love hearing new couples' stories!)"
"Yeah, we are hoping for sometime in the summer next year. The thing is..."
*another voice on the phone* "Just tell her! .....Mutters.... Ok I will. We're both women."
"Oh, awesome, so do you have any favorite spots you've picked out so far? Favorite venues or areas? Have you been here before?"
"Hello? Did I lose you?"
"No, we're here. We just want to make sure you work with gay couples."
"Well of course we do!"
*some sniffling in the background*
"Ok, wow, good. We just had a call with a planner who told us she didn't take same-sex weddings."
**I had a moment while I swallowed my murderous rage**
"I'm so sorry you had to deal with that! Not only do we work with ANY couple, but we have an inclusive network of vendors we refer. We have you covered, and you won't have to ask that question again."
NOBODY should have to ask that question ever again. Read more below!
I spent almost an hour on the phone with these sweet ladies. They had decided to come to Colorado for their wedding because they 'didn't feel safe' in TX where they are from. They said they called Colorado because they thought we were going to be a 'safe place'. Can you imagine? Why wouldn't you feel safe in your home city? Home state. I assured them we could take care of them here, and we'd be able to find vendors that not only would take their wedding, but they'd fight over it! Then they explained that they'd just gotten off the phone with a planner who said that she didn't accept GAY weddings. She wasn't nice about it. While telling me the story, this client was in tears. I was struggling not to cry on the phone with this poor gal while sitting in Starbucks. I was so mad! How dare someone make this woman not feel SAFE while planning her WEDDING!
I tell you what - They're a dream client. I hope we get the wedding! They're looking at Aspen or Vail. 90 guests, $100k budget. A DREAM client. They want warm fall colors and navy. They love velvet. They want gold accents and a venue with a view. They're hoping to get a date when the leaves are changing. They should be worrying about what date the leaves change, not whether or not someone is going to discriminate against them. Not worrying about whether they'd feel bloody SAFE at their wedding. This has to stop. The response they got from the planner they called was, "Oh, we don't take GAY weddings." You can stop, insert black, Muslim, Jewish, mixed-race, or any other group that's been discriminated against... and everyone will cry discrimination. But since it's same sex? When I posted this on a facebook group for wedding pros I got some, "but it's better to have them not have a vendor that's uncomfortable with them" posts. If you're a medical doctor working in the ER and you're 'uncomfortable with black patients - does that mean you shouldn't have to treat them? How about white supremacist patients? No, huh? Well guess what. Same thing goes for wedding pros.
Thanks so so much for being here, you guys. That's why this site means so much to ALL of the wedding clients. It means no client has to ask - "Will you take my wedding? We're a ___ Couple." It is my passion to help people plan their big days. No matter what they believe, who they are, or who they love. What you do MATTERS.
We got some great responses from some really fabulous vendors when we asked them their thoughts on the matter. We're happy to share those, as well as the lovely supportive wedding pros info who were kind enough to give a quote.
Jennie Crate - one of our awesome LGBT identified photographer and one of our trusted vendors (you can see her listing on CGW HERE!) says, "As an LGBT photographer I understand first hand how important it is to find vendors who not only accept you but who want nothing more than to help you celebrate the beauty of your relationship. It is infuriating to hear stories of vendors who turn away amazing couples because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Love is love is love and I believe that you deserve the very best on your wedding day, including family, friends and vendors who support you, and want to celebrate with you." We love this sentiment.
We love these wedding pros! Inclusivity is IMPERATIVE!
"I try so hard to make every client who comes through my doors feel like any other client. It breaks my heart that anyone would ever experience the bigotry she felt planning an event that is founded in love. All are always welcome through my doors. Come as you are." - This from Sarah Roshan - another awesome wedding photographer.
Reverend Sam - "I am a Minister and a Wedding Officiant and I believe with all of my heart that each of us has a God-given desire to fall in love and experience a lifetime of happiness with a partner." Rev. Samuel J. Lopez, Pastor, Minister, Wedding Officiant With Amazing Weddings and Ceremonies